Select your Girl (or Boy) Friend:

Boy/Girl Friend

Girl Seeking Life Partner

यदी आप गुगल क्रोम इस्तेमाल करते हो तो हिंदी में पढ़ने के लिये इधर क्लिक किजीये. फायर फॉक्स आय ई इस्तेमाल करते हो तो भी शायद पढ़ सकेंगे। प्रयत्न किजीये।
Statistic shows that in India percentage wise arranged marriages are more successful than love marriages. Basically the difference is dependent on "adjustment" Possibility of adjustment is more in arranged marriages than in love marriages. Every Indian is taught from childhood that marriage is not only for 1 life time but for 7. Children learn from their parents "How to adjust even if it is against one's mind" Children all over the world never want their parents to separate. They want their parents always together. Therefore, it is necessary that care must be taken before selecting a partner and make him/her partner for life time. Generally it is assumed that "Love at first sight" is the most effective way to choose a life time partner. Now there is a change. "Try and Decide" like trial and error.

In such an arrangement a man and woman leave together without going through the process of marriage. They think if they find the partner is not suitable then the partner can be discarded like any other item of use say a vehicle or gadget. Such an arrangement may be based on other items needed in life. However there could be more complications than solution. Basically it must be accepted that no one in this word is perfect, rather not even near to perfect. One has to accept a partner with his/her characteristics whether likable or otherwise. I have a suggestion to use modern technology to decide on one's partner. It would succeed depending on how one is clear about characteristics expected in the partner and finding whether those exist or not. I am confident that the method would help but the result would depend on the person using this method.

The method is simple. Make a list what one wants in his/her partner and grade every friend assigning either "zero" or "one" for every item of the list. Total marks obtained by each of the friends and whoever gets highest score is the most suitable partner among all considered in the grading. Result may not be perfect and would depend on how meticulously one prepares his/her criteria and grades every one correctly. Longer the list of criteria and correct knowledge about every person considered better is a possibility of right result. This is a 2 dimensional model. This can be extended to 3 dimensions or more by further dividing each of the characteristic in finer characteristics. I will try to illustrate this through an example. Say "Look" is one of the characteristics. This can be further divided in to say height, weight, statistics, colour of skin, eyes, nose, face and alike. This would need a third dimension to the model. To make it easy for a common man this could be considered as a 2 dimensional model and the grades may be transferred to the basic table for every friend. Similarly 4-5-6-7 or more dimensional models could be considered and for simple working grade from one table could be transferred to the next table just above it. More details may create problems also. Therefore restricting to 3 dimensional model would be practical.

Let's make a model to find a partner for marriage. I am considering only a few criteria. Every one interested must make his/her own table.

Friend→ Criterion↓	Weightage	Friend 1	Friend 2	Friend 3	Friend 4	Friend 5
Country	1	1	1	0	1	1
Religion	0.50	1	0	1	0	0
Caste	0,1	1	0	0	0	0
Height	1	0	1	1	0	1
Weight	0.8	1	0	0	1	1
Colour	0.5	0	0	0	0	1
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Education	1	0	1	1	1	1
Total		2.4	3	2.5	2.8	4.3

Weightage multiplied by marks given by the user is totaled up to find final marks for a candidate.This example shows that Friend 5 is the most suitable. At the same time it indicates where compromise is needed. Advance knowledge of +ve and –ve characteristics would make life simpler.

This method of analysis would be found useful in every walk of life. Decision taken would be scientific and practical. There may be other points which involves heart may make the decision incorrect. However, this would be useful at least to short list friends in the example.

Selecting a candidate for voting

In my opinion this method should be used by every one in the world to find a candidate to vote. This way every person can vote the right candidate based on his/her thinking. In such a case there is no need to make criteria individually. A group of people can prepare a list of criteria and every individual grades candidates as per his/her own experience. If this is followed country would get the best available politicians to govern.

I appeal to all readers to place individual experience in the form of comments. Those who wish to reveal criteria followed are welcome. I would suggest at least list of criteria used for various decisions should be included in the comments. The experience shall be guidelines for others. Please don't forget to try and place your experience here. Thank you for reading this. I would be grateful to those who would follow and place results with other connected information here.